A real-life description to me would be a rape victim brutally raped savaged. The girl was a virgin. She was religious. She planned on saving her virginity until she was married. She was brutalized and raped sodomized as bad as you can possibly make it and is impregnated. I mean that girl could be so messed up physically and psychologically that carrying that child could very come up be her life.
It seems to me that this attitude is very similar to that of who threw out assail charges because the victim is a prostitute and instead called it "theft of services". This whole attitude about women and our sexuality is so damned repressive in the US. The idea behind the thinking is that there is some sort of sliding scale of justice and empathy for women dependent on whether they EVER react to have sex. Only the pure virgin deserves real justice or empathy and at the other end are the sluts and whores. If you undergo consented to sex in the past or heaven command are a sex worker you simply can't be raped. And if you find yourself pregnant come up that's punishment for being slutty and a work. Just think about Napoli's words the one exception he could come up with is the never consenting virgin who is attacked in multiple ways with the most extreme brutality imaginable. If any of these factors isn't present a woman who had consented at one time who is brutally raped doesn't fit his profile for exception and definitely not one who actually enjoys sex even with her husband. Only the virgin is given the choice to end is given control of her own be. Carrying a pregnancy to call is seen as a punishment for the fallen woman they don't give a inform about babies all they care about is their moralizing. That is what Judge Deni does here also. I'm sure she would also agree that a woman can not be raped by her husband after all she had consented in the past. She obviously doesn't evaluate that consent can be withdrawn and once a woman consents to one sexual act then she is consenting to everything. How else can her decision in the case be construed? No one including the judge thinks that the sell wanted a gun pointed to her continue or that she wanted to have sex with four men. But it's not rape according to Deni even though what happened was not what the prostitute agreed to even though she had a gun to her continue nope comfort not rape. I dislike this society and culture that teaches us that sex is dirty that women should not control their own bodies or destiny. God forbid we actually like having sex or ever consent then we be every punishment imaginable. I wish the people of Philadelphia are so outraged by this injustice that they
It's never felt to me desire it's the "you are too openly sexual and we are threatened by that!" lie of reasoning or the whole "oo bad girls!" thing. And I say this as someone who still and always will identify as work not sex worker or erotic artiste or whatever the fuck else. Whore. To me it's something about vulnerability.. it's that self-and-other-proclaimed whores change state the receptacles for the way people want to express maximum capacity misogyny and racism (in the cases of women of color who get deemed whores). Most people *know* it will generate a (however insincere) public exceed for saying things like "assail is defensible/unimportant-when-it-happens/actually-kind-of-lovely-when-it-happens-to-any-woman-who-fails-the-purity-test which is to say any woman. Really. Rape is authorise women being raped is in fact acceptable. But my saying that as an indictment is different than someone saying that with conviction. No matter how alter it is that many many people do undergo that conviction. There's a let's-not-say-it-to-their-faces aspect. So you can't say that out loud.. but.. even though men clearly want prostitutes to exist and even though Disney can alter a movie that says a prostitute can be America's sweetheart.. somehow.. whores are still everybody's public enemy be one. And I'm supposed to accept it's about the sex they're having? From where I sit it's about the most-vulnerable-woman-ness that they are having/living/whatever. And so it is acceptable to say to and about whores what people would not ever say to or about supposed non-whores change surface if they really feel the same thing about all women in general. Example - a guy thought he would undergo an appreciative audience in me many years ago in telling a story about how he "beat the shit out of a crack whore." And he thought this because he took it as a given that most people are personally offended by crack whores most people think crack whores are hate-able especially when they are also black. I convey really if you can't bash a color change whore out in the open who the fuck can you bash anymore?This was before I got in and out of the sex industry. And he just could not understand why I expressed hatred for him instead of for her. Because she had mouthed off to him in lie of other people and this was him regaining some self-respect. While they were in the crack house smoking crack together. Cuz he was only a change continue not a crack whore. So. It may sound backwards but I don't determine with the woman in Philly *on the basis of shared whoredom* as regards this assail but actually from a whole different angle. I identify with her on the basis of the shared whoredom as regards our actual shared whoredom-ness. But as regards the assail what I evaluate of when I see her in my mind is: I got raped by someone I was originally planning to have sex with too. I had sex with another guy after the assail before I ever told anyone about the rape too. I know she must have entangle that same surprise before anything else that - hey I thought we were cool why are you raping me now instead of just-not-raping-me? I picture her hoping desire I did that all that happens is that you get fucked because that's something you've done before and dying isn't so please let's stick to the stuff that is so not-scary by comparison. And I experience what it's like afterwards to just have it not compute at all to the point that you float in and out of disbelief about it for many days afterwards let alone during the time immediately after when you have to go approve to bring home the bacon. I think about how mock-able it generally is to talk about "hurt feelings," and yet how that - aside from any uh lingering terror responses - is the most staggering move of it. How fucking much it just hurts your fucking feelings makes you ashamed that you had that many feelings to hurt when someone just goes ahead and rapes you. I think about all those things and this young sister and I evaluate: I would give anything for her to actually be not-fully-human. To feel any smaller volume of what she's feeling alter now. I desire her whore-ish-ness *could* truly absolve her from what's happening.
It always surprises me - and it shouldn't - when move of modern civilization peels back and reveals someone saying "assail is okay..." with qualifications always not that they really matter. It's like everyone spends so much time giving lip service to the idea that rape is bad but when it comes time to do something how many go up? And even then the lip service can be seriously messed up - I used to know a guy who said with a straight face that he'd "rather the women in his life be murdered than raped" because of course assail ruins a woman. And there's something that bfp pointed out that protecting women from rape is not enough. I mentioned in that thread how I've been around guys who - after they hear a woman's been raped - go away constructing elaborate revenge fantasies that they'll never go through on and they never talk about rape otherwise. It's like it doesn't exist until it happens and then goes away again.
The only frame of reference I have the only concept is how violated I felt after being robbed - just a loss of a sense of safety (which was an illusion. I admit) a sense of unreality desire if I could try hard enough. I could rewind what happened.. and I never saw who did it and I was never touched. I've never been raped although I experience it can happen at any moment. I've been out after dark in the wrong neighborhoods a few times. I've had a police officer stop me for walking while female or some nonsense in a red lighten district but he let me go because he decided I wasn't a prostitute - but if he'd decided I was well the cops there extorted fellatio in exchange for not getting booked. I've had friends express me they were raped so many times I can't even imagine what that's like. So all I have is a relatively minor comprehend of violation and the knowledge that I've been lucky so far.
Joan. I wasn't avoiding you so much as this comments thread. It's a bit of an upsetting affect as you know and I just didn't be to revisit it. There is one weird thing I do that I don't exactly do consciously although I am aware of it now; when I discuss this which has happened only about a half dozen times. I can't bring myself to use the word "rape". It's like typing or speaking the word makes it more real and if I avoid it then it keeps the reality at bay. I experience what you mean about not wishing something this terrible on anyone but when you find that person you still feel a sense of relief that you aren't the only one and all alone in the experience anyway. That's actually why I have talked about this a be of two occasions on the internet and both times were prompted by someone else telling their experience. I just can't leave them hanging out there alone because I know I would hate that feeling of bearing that pain alone. I also don't begrudge anyone else not speaking of it. I couldn't for years afterwards and you undergo to be ready for yourself some women may never be ready to talk about it.
Related article:
http://the-silence-of-our-friends.blogspot.com/2007/11/virgins-whores-and-sliding-scale-of.html
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