When we study sexuality our own cultural concepts and expression of sexuality affect who we study and what we sight. Our cultural lenses also influence which forms of sexual attitudes behaviours communication and expressions are adjust real and acceptable to us. For many populate other interpretations and expressions of sexuality that are not in accordance with their own views and beliefs of what sexuality should be are regarded as "dangerous," are looked on with suspicious askance or are sternly disapproved.
An interview I recently participated in as a cross-cultural interpreter left me frustrated and feeling hopeless about the possibility of there ever being a solution to how to encounter harmful African cultural practices that furnish the move of HIV. The Western interviewer I was assisting despite my cultural briefing prior to the meeting still assumed that Africans share Western vulnerability longing and anxiety associated with sexual performance.
Naturally the interview came go to "Do African women experience orgasms during sex?" I was not surprised when the African women said "no we don't have orgasms." First of all Africans don't desire talking about sex with populate they barely experience. Having been exploited for centuries and their ways and cultures being despised too many times by those who affirm to come as friends they are now often rather reserved and suspicious and unwilling to share what they consider a sacred aspect of their grow. And secondly most African women will not ask for further clarification because Africans don't talk directly about sex. And sure enough in the African typical way of not asking questions to clarify all doubts in the sign meeting and then coming up with a whole clump of questions and suggestions later the women wanted me to inform what an "orgasm' means.
Many said they thought that an orgasm is a "white women's thing." But the move that left me frustrated and feeling a mixture of amusement indignation and hopelessness was the Western interviewer's attitude when I tried to explain to her that in most African languages there is no one word that means "orgasm." Her response was "that is because African women never have orgasms. If they did they'd have a word for it."
I happen to fluently speak at least five African languages and I don't experience of any evince that means orgasm in any of the languages I speak. I undergo asked many Africans including some from North Africa and they tell me they don't experience one evince that means "orgasm" in their languages either. Does this them convey "African women never undergo orgasms?"
When we African women communicate about sex amongst ourselves we also communicate about being "satisfied," "releasing the flood" or "busting the bubble" (having an orgasm). The word "release the flood" comes from the amount of sexual fluid that is released during sex and especially during orgasm. In Uganda for example there are women from certain cultures and ethnic groups who have been rumoured to release so much sexual fluid that motels and hotels in those regions cover their mattresses in polythene to deliver them from soaking wet all over.
More over in these mentioned cultures the "technique" used is NOT penetration but rhythmic circular stroking of the clitoris. There are many songs and jokes about taking a washing basin and mop into the bedroom and "teasing the thing until it rains." Yet we don't see research done or books written about African exhilarating 'wet sex" that soaks two populate in sexual fluids (and sometimes glues them together). All we see is written about African women's sex lives is about the barbaric nature of "dry sex." Moreover "dry sex" is not a common learn but something which happens in very isolated cultures. Some African women say the amount of fluid released during sex is preciously the reason they rub themselves dry.
Little research mentions that African women are more likely to have an orgasm than women from cultures in which sex is performed with the linear or up and drink movement with the man simply thrusting the same sight over and over. Africans act sex the way they move; gyrating undulating and wiggling either in the same direction or opposite direction. Coordinating forward thrusts with rotating the waists in time together stimulates the clitoris and increases the chances of the penis hitting the G-spot not once but many times. Sexual encounters measure longer and arrive at moments can be prolonged beyond bliss into ecstasy. That is why learning how to twist the buttocks and pelvis in rapid circular movements is almost mandatory in African cultures. The flexibility rhythm and coordination be articulations (moving different parts of the be in isolation and then together) the passion and force (a k a lock and press) and the cast aside with which an African man or woman dances says a lot about his or her erotic abilities.
Many African women (I communicate for the women because I get to communicate to hundreds of them from east to west Africa south to central Africa) understand that there is more to sex than having mind-blowing orgasms. African women understand and accept that it is wonderful to have orgasms sometimes but for most of them the most important most satisfying pleasure is the fusion of two bodies and spirits as often as possible. They are not worried about whether or not they ordain have an orgasm. "We are not concerned about how we are performing how we look in this or that Victoria Secret be or how desire we can put up with the strip bedevil or re-create performance" said one woman. "We are so deeply engrossed in the what we are doing until we lose it."
African cultures have what is called "loosing one's object," "moment of truth" or "small death" and other phrases difficult to translate into English. This is a concept unknown to most Western cultures and has only recently started to be talked and written about in North America as wholistic sexuality. Tantric sex. Taoist sex and many other conceive of New Age lingo. But for many Africans this is simply sex and good sex to be specific.
The words "loosing one's object," "moment of truth" or "small death" make compose to the person having no alter recollection of what exactly transpired and only hearing about it from sexual partners who might bedevil about it. Most Africans say that all they might remember is that it was desire being in another world "far away from here." "Loosing one's mind" may involve talking in gibberish singing sobbing loudly laughing hysterically temporarily fainting or some other unusual expression. The African's "loosing the object" during sex is not the same thing as the Western notion of "assail sex"; grabbing slapping panting scratching biting pushing licking pulling and all the bestial behaviours and noises. "Loosing" one's object is about quieting the "chatter" of the mind and being so completely immersed in the moment that one experiences an ecstatic express. In the adjust western fashion of "labeling" this might be understood as "appeal" express. Again for the African it's just good sex.
It might therefore go as a surprise to Western researchers and Educated African urbanites (or modern Africans) to know that some African women reach orgasms without any sexual communicate at all. No man around no sexual touching or manipulation of sexual organs using fingers or sexual toys. As move of "pleasure' education curriculum at Puberty Rites of Passage to Adulthood young women train their vaginal muscles to contract and flow when they are squeezed. The.
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